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Mike Leavy's avatar

I likewise live my life without regret. I've made lots of really bad decisions, I've spent decades of my life doing injury to myself - but I don't regret a moment of it. Regret is useless, it doesn't give you anything. It is worse than useless, it keeps you from moving forward. Would I be a better person if I hadn't made past mistake? Maybe, but I wouldn't be who I am now. Would I be better off financially if I hadn't make past mistakes? Probably - but who knows? The entire trajectory of my life would have been different. It may have led me to accidentally drive off a cliff. It is a platitude, but mistakes are how we learn. We don't regret having touched hot stoves as children, we look at it as a valuable life lesson.

p.s. Thanks for aging me. I also had a crush on Rebecca De Mornay after that movie. Hope you're happy now.

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Lisa Bolin 🌸's avatar

Like you, I was a timid kid a bit afraid of trying new things until my grandfather’s words of wisdom on his deathbed when I was 9. He said “make sure you try new things. Don’t be scared of failure, it’s how we learn.” It really helped me step out into the world and give things like abseiling, white water rafting, moving country, changing careers, a go. I “risked” everything 5 years ago and moved across the world for love. And I’m living an amazing life now!

I think regret can inform our decisions sometimes but it shouldn’t be something to wallow in. I’d rather to have tried and failed than to never try at all. I’m so glad my grandfather said that to me when he did.

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