I used to be hard-edged at work. Often, I was simply a jerk, no two ways about it. You are right - anger is an easy go-to emotion. When I learned to be softer, I discovered a few important things: that everyone is just trying to do their best; that acceptance just feels better; that learning how not to be in control, how not to demand an outcome that I want, how to let others shine and be happy - allowed me to sleep better, to be a better partner to my wife, to be in more control of myself, which is more important than controlling my job. Most importantly, it has allowed me to be the best dog parent I can be 🙂
I LOVE this: "Happily ever after doesn’t mean always happy. It means that you are happy in the choices you’ve made. It means that you have found something that is worth working on. Something that is worth the tough days and the long hours and the big talks. "
I'm working on the soft edges - it helps not having to work and be always on edge/alert. I'm sort of getting reacquainted with myself...
Reminds me of what we talked about related to living in New York! Haha. But aside from that you make some excellent points here. In real life romance is rarely a fairy tale, but HEAs are possible if you do the work. Also, great point about how we glamorize violence and yet seem afraid of sex. Quite a bizarre double standard if you ask me.
I used to be hard-edged at work. Often, I was simply a jerk, no two ways about it. You are right - anger is an easy go-to emotion. When I learned to be softer, I discovered a few important things: that everyone is just trying to do their best; that acceptance just feels better; that learning how not to be in control, how not to demand an outcome that I want, how to let others shine and be happy - allowed me to sleep better, to be a better partner to my wife, to be in more control of myself, which is more important than controlling my job. Most importantly, it has allowed me to be the best dog parent I can be 🙂
I LOVE this: "Happily ever after doesn’t mean always happy. It means that you are happy in the choices you’ve made. It means that you have found something that is worth working on. Something that is worth the tough days and the long hours and the big talks. "
I'm working on the soft edges - it helps not having to work and be always on edge/alert. I'm sort of getting reacquainted with myself...
Reminds me of what we talked about related to living in New York! Haha. But aside from that you make some excellent points here. In real life romance is rarely a fairy tale, but HEAs are possible if you do the work. Also, great point about how we glamorize violence and yet seem afraid of sex. Quite a bizarre double standard if you ask me.
Makes me think of the 2000 movie High Fidelity